How to Never Get What You Want
Easy—just pretend that you don't want it.
Faith is being unashamed of your desperation for God’s blessings.
Let’s start with something light-hearted.
Be honest:
You desire spiritual gifts.
But you act skeptical and offended toward spiritual gifts because you don’t have one—or you’ve buried what you had.
This attitude is why you don’t get what you want in life—pretending you don’t want it to prepare for the likelihood that you won’t get it.
That’s exactly how the I DON’T NEED NO MAN mindset functions.
That’s how men became whiny little B toward women.
That’s why they promote the benefits of masturbation, yet no one shares their masturbation success stories.
That’s why people declare they don’t want to get married while living with their boyfriends or girlfriends.
That’s why they use this word, “partner”.
That’s why they blaspheme against marriage, calling it “just a contract.”
That’s why they say, “Love is for losers.”
That’s why they learn manipulation, haughtiness (false confidence), and hypocrisy (false humility).
That’s why they shame epic love stories between a hero and a princess.
Because they want what they shame, but they fear being ashamed—if they wanted it but didn’t get it.
In this article:
Carelessness is cowardice
How desires become shame
Be stubborn, ruthless, and die-hard
Carelessness is cowardice
Now, the dangerous outcome for such people is this—
They become coveters, like the Pharisees, who wanted to be like Jesus. Yet, instead of following Him, they denied that desire and became crooked, dark, jealous, and perverted in their hearts.
Denying your desire and pretending you don’t want it will only make you covet those who have what you truly want.
This, in turn, will pervert your heart.
“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.” Matthew 5:8
A perverted heart will not receive anything from the Lord, for a double-minded man is unstable in all his ways, and double-mindedness is a heart issue.
“Purify your heart, you double-minded.” James 4:8
This is what I discovered—
Many people are teenagers, regardless of their age.
And teenagers care about only one thing: acting like they don’t care.
But you are too old to play careless.
Carelessness in an adult is cowardice.
It’s the fear of admitting your true desire, just so you won’t feel ashamed if you don’t get it.
Because of your cowardice, whatever you truly desired, you never received.
That one girl.
That one guy.
That one place.
That one college.
That one promotion.
That one business.
That one book.
That one trophy.
That one dream.
You hid your desire like hiding your shame—and indeed, it has become your shame.
How you treat it determines what it will become.
You desire a beautiful spouse, but you’re afraid God won’t give you one, so you pretend you don’t care about physical appearance. You don’t even dare to pray about it.
You desire a limo, but you don’t know how to get one, so you give up on that desire.
You desire a mansion, but your rental apartment eats up half of your monthly paycheck, so that desire gathers dust.
Your desire has always been visible but not feasible.
Desire is not meant to be feasible.
How desires become shame
You need to learn this one truth:
Nothing is impossible with God. (Luke 1:37)
Remember, “with” God.
You must learn to co-labor with Him through absolute obedience: no delay, no praycrastination.
Life is short.
That’s the ultimate lie of Satan—one that stirs up our sinful nature to sin as much as possible.
“And this is the promise that He has promised us—eternal life.” 1 John 2:25
Just like when Satan told Adam and Eve, “You will not surely die”—he wasn’t wrong. They didn’t die physically.
“Life is short”—again, he wasn’t wrong; our physical life on earth is short.
Satan deceives you by taking advantage of your tunnel vision. You only see the physical realm and time, but the truth lies in the spiritual realm and eternity.
Men function in time; God operates from eternity.
When God wants to do something in the realm of time and the physical, He sends an angel to move between time and eternity, and then, a man to fulfill it—as it is written: Your kingdom come, Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.
The “your-version” God is too small, and therefore, your desire ends up as shame.
What do you want?
What do you truly desire?
Even now, as you try to imagine it, you’re afraid that somehow other people will see through your thoughts.
You can’t do what you can’t see yourself doing.
Be stubborn, ruthless, and die-hard
So, Alice, you’re saying—as long as I keep wanting it, I’ll get it? That’s BS.
That is BS.
In this life, you don’t get what you want.
You get who you are.
Wanting pushes you to become the person who matches your desires.
Don’t share your vision with others unless you’re vetting a spouse or a long-term business partner.
If your vision scares them and they mock you—good. Your future has nothing to do with them. Cut them off.
You can’t afford to play with your destiny.
You need to be ruthlessly focused.
Ruth followed Naomi despite Naomi’s discouragement.
Elisha followed Elijah despite Elijah’s refusal three times.
Jacob said, “I will not let go unless You bless me.”
Esther said, “If I perish, I perish.”
As a result of stubborn faith, ruthless devotion, and die-hard loyalty—
Ruth gained Boaz, Elisha received a double portion of Elijah’s anointing, Jacob became the father of a nation, and Esther changed history.
“For the waywardness of the naive will kill them,
And the complacency of fools will destroy them. Proverbs 1:32
Some people are not obedient—they are complacent.
When they say, “Let it be done according to Your will,” they do nothing to seek God’s will.
What they’re actually saying is, “If God will do it, He will do it. I don’t need to do anything.”
Some people are not faithful—they are willful.
They decide what God should say before they even ask Him.
What is faith?
Faith is being unashamed of your desperation for God’s blessings.
Remember the blind man who screamed in the marketplace: “Son of David, have mercy on me!”—even as the disciples rebuked him?
“Shhh—be quiet!”
Yet he cried out even louder.
You keep your mouth shut when God wants you to speak, yet you open it wide to gush evil toward those who love you.
I don’t know how many men have told me to “be quiet”—whether it’s because I’m a woman or because I’m a woman—
But I cried out even louder.
Now the enemy has fallen silent.
Peace is made—not kept.
Faith is stubborn—yes, be stubborn in your faith.
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Lastly, this is a prayer for you to stop being a coward:
Heavenly Father,
I will not let go unless You bless me.
If I perish, I perish.
I want Your best.
I will not settle.
I will not budge an inch.
I will hold fast to Your Word, which says—
“Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.”
“If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you.”
All this time, I have done nothing but learn how to delight in the Lord and abide in You.
I have the legal right to claim the desires of my heart, as it is written.
Make me worthy of Your best.
When the time is right, You, the Lord, will do it.
I thank You for Your grace and favor upon my life.
In Jesus’s name, I receive it. Amen.
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Thanks Alice what a timely word for me. Bless you my Sister in Christ
"Make me worthy of your best" is such a good line.